Book 5 of the Bonded By Blood Vampire Chronicles – Release Day!!

BBB05_1700x2550Surprise! Release Day Moved Up

For people who are only followers of my blog, you may have noticed it’s been a little quiet lately. I’ve been plugging away at getting my latest novel written & produced and now marketed. Things went well enough with the release that I went ahead and moved up the release date from April 4th to March 31st. YEP! THAT’S TOMORROW!!! *Arial does the Snoopy dance*

For those of you who are VIP Club members, this is old news. And many of you have had a sneak peek or two into the novel through the newsletters I’ve sent out this month. Another sneak peek is going out tomorrow when I send my reminder for the release day. TIP: If you’re not subscribed to my newsletter, do it now! >>CLICK HERE<<

I announce all my new releases and give exclusive sneak peeks to members of my VIP Club. You don’t want to miss out! Also if you’re not subscribed, you might not know that Midnight Savior is only $2.99 until April 11th. That’s the day the price goes up, so get your copy now while it’s at this low price.

BBB01-04_box_03Get Caught Up AND Save 66%!

If you’re new to my series, for a limited time only I’m offering Books 1-4 of my Bonded By Blood Vampire Chronicles for only $3.99! This gives you a chance to catch up on my series and save, but only until April 30th. May 1st, the boxed set will no longer be available. >>CLICK HERE<< to get your bundle now!

Sneak Peek – Midnight Savior (Book 5)

Quick setup – This scene is from Malloren Rune’s point of view…a POV I have purposefully avoided until now. We’ve always seen the elusive prophetess through the eyes of the other characters, mostly Broderick’s. For this book, I spend a lot of time in Malloren’s head…and for good reason. I’m going to let you readers see just a peak of what makes this woman tick, and I reveal some startling truths behind the prophecy, which has so turned Broderick’s world upside down since the very day he crossed over in 1486. Yes…Malloren is certainly to blame.

This scene is at the beginning of the book and our hunky vampire hero is putting himself in the friend zone for this novel! What? He isn’t running into Davina’s arms? Nope! In fact, he’s fighting her, tooth and nail! So here’s a sneak peek from Malloren’s point of view…

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Broderick pursed his lips. “You know very well why I’m here.” He poured his sixth glass of Scotch, but this time didn’t gulp the libation. Instead, he cradled it in his hand as he strolled to the window. Poor Broderick was still trying to drown his frustrations in the amber liquid. Surely, he did it out of habit now, since alcohol had no effect on their kind.

“Davina is in hospital.” He glanced worry-filled eyes over his shoulder. “She may have been raped,” he whispered, despair graveling his voice. He returned his attention out the window. “I’ve been looking for her since I arrived and must have searched every hospital and clinic in a three-mile radius of the Victoria Docks.”

Malloren nodded, recalling that the distance was the reach of his dreams in relation to Davina’s location. “Raped? Are you certain?” She opened her mouth to ask more questions, but gasped when a bright flash blinded her.

The parlor in which she sat vanished in favor of the visions rushing through her mind. Familiar, grimy byways and passages of where she’d been hunting surrounded her. The dark alleys faded and she, once again, sat amidst the tastefully decorated room.

Malloren sighed. Thank God! A vision. “You’re looking in the wrong place. Davina is in the East End.”

Rick blanched. “God’s blood, no. What is she doing there?”

“Have you not checked those hospitals? Whitechapel is within the radius.”

“I-I ignored that area. I never thought to look there because…well…”

“I understand. It’s bad enough she’s been hurt. I would imagine you wouldn’t want to find her living under such horrid conditions. As to why she would be there, I can think of several reasons. Abandoned by a husband, perhaps with child and rejected by her family. She might have even been raised in poverty—”

“Mal, you’re not helping me!” Broderick glared before emptying his glass down his throat. He stalked to the decanter to replenish his drink. “Don’t pile one appalling circumstance upon another. I’ve already conceived a multitude of terrifying thoughts just in the last few moments. Honestly, woman!” Rick paced, raking his fingers through his dark-auburn hair.

Her cheeks flushed with heat. “Well, now that you’re here, she’ll be safe with you.”

Broderick shook his head. “No, she won’t. I’m leaving without her.”

>>CLICK HERE<< to find out what happens next!

I know! You can say it…BEEE-OTCH! I am an evil woman, aren’t I? So go get your copy now. I think it’s still up for pre-order at this very moment I am publishing this post, but you will have it in your eReader by midnight tonight! ENJOY!!!

That’s my two pence…

Arial 😀

Jack Frost in Frostbitten Hearts – USAToday Bestseller

Frostbitten Hearts featuring Jack Frost - a Bonded By Blood NovellaJack Frost is HOT!!

I am THRILLED to announce that A Very Alpha Christmas – the boxed set that includes my Bonded By Blood Novella Frostbitten Hearts about the legendary Jack Frost – made #40 on the USAToday Bestseller List!! *Arial jumps up and down and throws confetti* This is a wonderful accomplishment for all the authors involved. I’m proud to say this is the second set containing one of my books that has hit this prestigious list of high-selling books – the first being Highland Shifters (with Midnight Hunt, Book 3). By the way, A Very Alpha Christmas is still on sale for 99¢, so BUY IT NOW while the price is still low!!

Jack Frost as You’ve Never Seen Him!

So what is Frostbitten Hearts about? In short, it’s my own version of the Jack Frost legend – who he is, how he got his name, and the woman who melted his heart! WARNING: This is no Disney storyline of snowflakes and children’s rhymes. Uh-uh! Jack Frost is a sexy alpha male who will stop at nothing to find the woman he loves!

For those of you who read my Bonded By Blood Vampire Chronicles, there are a few pieces of this storyline that might be familiar. Jack is an Elemental – a witch or mage who wields the power of the elements. Monika Konrad, the heroine of Midnight Hunt (Book 3), is a fire witch and that’s the first book where I introduced this race of magic users. At the very end of Midnight Eclipse (Book 4), I invented the “nurseries” the Elder Vamsyrians (aka vampires) created to breed these magic users in order to produce a Spirit Elemental – a rare witch or mage with powers over the dead…powers Prince Jesse Amir needs to defeat his father, the King of the Vamsyrians. Dah-dah…DAH! Continue reading

A Very Alpha Christmas – New Bonded By Blood Novella

a-very-alpha-christmas-iTunes-coverPreorder A Very Alpha Christmas NOW for 99¢

Over 25 Paranormal Holiday Tales of Werewolves, Dragons, Shifters, Vampires, Fae, Witches, Billionaires, Magics, Ghosts, Demons and More! Preorder it now and lock in the 99¢ price. A Taming the Alpha Big Box Set of Spicy Paranormal Romance Tales featuring OVER 25 ALL NEW, NEVER RELEASED stories from New York Times, USA Today and Bestselling Authors

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RELEASE DATE: November 17, 2015

Collection Includes Brand New Stories by:

  • Heated Holiday © Copyright 2015 by Mandy M. Roth
  • Stirring Up Trouble © Copyright 2015 by Michelle M. Pillow
  • Baby It’s Cold Out Bear © Copyright 2015 by T. S. Joyce
  • Hunted © Copyright 2015 by Chloe Cole
  • Vampire Games © Copyright 2015 by V. M. Black
  • When Darkness Falls © Copyright 2015 by Terah Edun
  • Christmas Past, Christmas Presents © Copyright 2015 by Carina Wilder
  • Wrapped Up © Copyright 2015 by Cathryn Fox
  • An Impossible Gift © Copyright 2015 by Cristina Rayne
  • Thief of Souls © Copyright 2015 by Jaycee Clark
  • A Glint of Light © Copyright 2015 by JC Andrijeski
  • The Clockwork Dragon © Copyright 2015 by Tasha Black
  • Blitzen’s Fated Mate © Copyright 2015 by R. E. Butler
  • Star’s Fall © Copyright 2015 by Jaide Fox
  • In Good Spirits © Copyright 2015 by Michele Bardsley
  • Midnight Before Christmas © Copyright 2015 by Renee George
  • Winter Blues © Copyright 2015 by T.J. Michaels
  • Wish Upon a Werewolf © Copyright 2015 by Elsa Jade
  • A Christmas Caroline © Copyright 2015 by Allison Gatta
  • Frostbitten Hearts © Copyright 2015 by Arial Burnz
  • The Lady And The Dragon’s Holiday © Copyright 2015 by Mandy Rosko
  • Not a Gentleman’s Christmas © Copyright 2015 by Candice Gilmer
  • Claimed by the Dragon King © Copyright 2015 by Dawn Michelle
  • The BBW and the Beast © Copyright 2015 by Sylvia Frost
  • Reindeers, Elves, and Cookies…Oh My! © Copyright 2015 by Lissa Matthews
  • Santa Shifter in Manhattan © Copyright 2015 by Lexy Cole

I am SUPER excited to be a part of this holiday collection of paranormal romance stories. OMG get ready to bundle up into your jammies, sit by a warm fire with cup of egg nog or hot chocolate and grab your eReader for a COZY session of holiday tales and tails! You will NOT be disappointed at this…yet another…installment of the Taming the Alpha anthology series!

Frostbitten Hearts – A Bonded By Blood Novella

For those of you who have been waiting for the next BBB story, this is a little tie-me-over until my new release (to be announced VERY soon), Book 5 in the Bonded By Blood Vampire Chronicles. Here’s the blurb for the novella included in this boxed set:

Frostbitten-Hearts-bundle-coverHer ability to wield fire didn’t give Aideen the power to make Jack stay…

Jack was Aideen’s very breath. As a cusper Elemental, he was the air that fed her fire and the waters that cooled her soul. Born and bred in captivity by vampires for their magic, they sought shelter and love in each other’s arms. But when Jack’s family escapes the “nursery”, Aideen is ripped from her young lover’s arms. Her family refuses to risk the wrath of their captors, and she is forced to stay behind. Though Jack vows to return and free her, his promise is not easily kept. He and his grove liberate several nurseries in retaliation and, still, she cannot be found.

Ten years later, Aideen unexpectedly stumbles into the grove’s compound and back into Jack’s arms with news they have a child…and she is the bait for a trap. Time is of the essence. If they don’t return by sunset, their son will fall victim to the vampires.

Jack must return to the prison he risked his life to escape, but he will do anything to save his son and he is not about to lose the only woman who has possessed his soul and can melt his frozen heart.

Author Notes

This story takes place about 25 years after the end of Midnight Eclipse, Book 4 of my BBB series. For those of you who read Book 4 – remember little baby Jack, the Cusper Elemental? Well, this is Jack’s story and he’s all grown up now (Yup! That’s him on the cover! RAWR!) and he’s learned to use his air and water abilities to wield ICE! I’m really excited about this tale of witches and vampires and fiery love that will melt Jack’s heart!

So preorder your copy now while it’s at the low price of 99¢! AND PLEASE SHARE!! Use those share buttons below or do a search for #AlphaXmas on Twitter and Facebook and just RETWEET and SHARE the hell out of our posts! THANK YOU!!!!

Mwah!

Arial 😉

Day 6 – Snarkology Halloween Hop & Drinks

Snarkology Halloween Blog Hop 2015Last Day &
HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!

Yay! Candy day is here! And we have TWO drinks today!

Welcome back to those of you participating this week!!! Welcome to those who have just stumbled upon this spook-tactular Blog Hop and a message to hustle! This is the last day of the #SnarkologyHalloweenHop where almost SEVENTY authors, including myself of course, are participating in a Blog Hop hosted by the Ghostess with the Mostess, Melissa Snark!! Here are the big prizes:

 

(1) $100 Amazon or B&N Gift Card or
(1) $50 Amazon or B&N Gift Card or
(1) $50 Amazon or B&N Gift Card or
(1) $50 Amazon or B&N Gift Card

If you click on the banner above OR CLICK HERE, you can follow the hop for more fun, great books, and awesome prizes! Below is also the link list to all the participants. The hop is happening OCTOBER 26-31st!!! You have all week long to participate.

Don’t forget to enter my drawing below OR do more sharing to earn more entries. TWO winners to receive Books 1 & 2 of my Bonded By Blood Vampire Chronicles in audiobook format at the end of this week, just in time for Halloween!! Scroll down to enter the drawing AND participate in the rest of the hop spots!! Good luck!!

Halloween Day Drink #1 – Bloody Brain Shooters

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Day 5 – Snarkology Halloween Hop & Drinks

Snarkology Halloween Blog Hop 2015Only Two Days Left!!

Welcome back to those of you participating this week!!! Welcome to those who have just stumbled upon this spook-tactular Blog Hop! This is Day 4 of the #SnarkologyHalloweenHop where almost SEVENTY authors, including myself of course, are participating in a Blog Hop hosted by the Ghostess with the Mostess, Melissa Snark!! Here are the big prizes:

(1) $100 Amazon or B&N Gift Card or
(1) $50 Amazon or B&N Gift Card or
(1) $50 Amazon or B&N Gift Card or
(1) $50 Amazon or B&N Gift Card

If you click on the banner to the right OR CLICK HERE, you can follow the hop for more fun, great books, and awesome prizes! Below is also the link list to all the participants. The hop is happening OCTOBER 26-31st!!! You have all week long to participate.

Don’t forget to enter my drawing below OR do more sharing to earn more entries. TWO winners to receive Books 1 & 2 of my Bonded By Blood Vampire Chronicles in audiobook format at the end of this week, just in time for Halloween!! Scroll down to enter the drawing AND participate in the rest of the hop spots!! Good luck!!

Friday’s Halloween Drink – Bourbon Pumpkin Pie Milkshake

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Day 4 – Snarkology Halloween Hop & Drinks

Snarkology Halloween Blog Hop 2015The Ghoulishly Delightful Party Continues!!

Welcome back to those of you participating this week!!! Welcome to those who have just stumbled upon this faah-BOO-lous Blog Hop! This is Day 4 of the #SnarkologyHalloweenHop where almost SEVENTY authors, including myself of course, are participating in a Blog Hop hosted by the Ghostess with the Mostess, Melissa Snark!! Here are the big prizes:

(1) $100 Amazon or B&N Gift Card or
(1) $50 Amazon or B&N Gift Card or
(1) $50 Amazon or B&N Gift Card or
(1) $50 Amazon or B&N Gift Card

If you click on the banner to the left OR CLICK HERE, you can follow the hop for more fun, great books, and awesome prizes! Below is also the link list to all the participants. The hop is happening OCTOBER 26-31st!!! You have all week long to participate.

Don’t forget to enter my drawing below OR do more sharing to earn more entries. TWO winners to receive Books 1 & 2 of my Bonded By Blood Vampire Chronicles in audiobook format at the end of this week, just in time for Halloween!! Scroll down to enter the drawing AND participate in the rest of the hop spots!! Good luck!!

Thursday’s Halloween Drink – Black Devil Martini

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Day 3 – Snarkology Halloween Blog Hop & Drinks

Snarkology Halloween Blog Hop 2015Keep On Participating!!!

Welcome back to those of you participating this week!!! Welcome to those who have just stumbled upon this faah-BOO-lous Blog Hop! This is Day 3 of the #SnarkologyHalloweenHop where almost SEVENTY authors, including myself of course, are participating in a Blog Hop hosted by the Ghostess with the Mostess, Melissa Snark!! Here are the big prizes:

(1) $100 Amazon or B&N Gift Card or
(1) $50 Amazon or B&N Gift Card or
(1) $50 Amazon or B&N Gift Card or
(1) $50 Amazon or B&N Gift Card

If you click on the banner to the right OR CLICK HERE, you can follow the hop for more fun, great books, and awesome prizes! Below is also the link list to all the participants. The hop is happening OCTOBER 26-31st!!! You have all week long to participate.

Don’t forget to enter my drawing below OR do more sharing to earn more entries. TWO winners to receive Books 1 & 2 of my Bonded By Blood Vampire Chronicles in audiobook format at the end of this week, just in time for Halloween!! Scroll down to enter the drawing AND participate in the rest of the hop spots!! Good luck!!

Wednesday’s Halloween Drink – Morgue-A-Rita Cocktail

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Day 2 – Snarkology Halloween Hop & Drinks

Snarkology Halloween Blog Hop 2015Get You Some Prizes!!!

Welcome!!! This is Day 2 of the #SnarkologyHalloweenHop where almost SEVENTY authors, including myself of course, are participating in a Blog Hop hosted by the BOO-tiful Melissa Snark!! Here are the big prizes:

(1) $100 Amazon or B&N Gift Card or
(1) $50 Amazon or B&N Gift Card or
(1) $50 Amazon or B&N Gift Card or
(1) $50 Amazon or B&N Gift Card

If you click on the banner to the left OR CLICK HERE, you can follow the hop for more fun, great books, and awesome prizes! Below is also the link list to all the participants. The hop is happening OCTOBER 26-31st!!! You have all week long to participate.

I posted this info a little late in the day yesterday, so if you missed it, now’s your chance to catch up:  I invite you to visit AJ Nuest’s Tattered Pages blog where I’ll also be hosting MORE drinks all this week and she has some prizes as well. Yes…brave girl. She’s let me hijack her blog. Such a trusting soul. *rubs hands together* Mwuahahaha!

Don’t forget to enter my drawing below. TWO winners to receive Books 1 & 2 of my Bonded By Blood Vampire Chronicles in audiobook format! Scroll down to enter the drawing AND participate in the rest of the hop spots!! Good luck!!

Tuesday’s Halloween Drink – Zombie Slime Shooters

Original_Andrea-Correale-Halloween-Cocktails-Zombie-Slime-Shooters_v.jpg.rend.hgtvcom.1280.1707For those of you who are Walking Dead fans or just enthusiasts for the coming Zombie Apocalypse, here’s a drink you might enjoy!! As I said yesterday, these drinks are courtesy of the HGTV website!! Who doesn’t like a good cocktail after working their butt off decorating or doing some construction on their house, huh? LOL Thanks to HGTV for posting their drink series.

Zombie Slime Shooters Halloween Cocktail

Ingredients

For cocktail:

1 ounce vodka
1 ounce peach schnapps
1 ounce sour apple schnapps
1 ounce coconut rum
1 ounce sweet and sour mix

For blood slime:

3 tablespoons corn syrup
1/2 teaspoon red food coloring

Rim Instructions
1. Mix corn syrup with red food coloring.
2. Dip the rim of martini glass into the mixture, and slowly spin the glass to coat it.
3. Turn the glass upright and the blood will begin to drip slightly. Set aside.

Cocktail Instructions
1. Pour all ingredients into a cocktail shaker half-filled with ice cubes.
2. Shake well and pour over ice cubes into slime-rimmed martini glass.

I hope you enjoyed the recipe for today! Check back tomorrow when I’ll post another drink recipe AND you can earn more chances to win!

Post Your Own Experience!

I’ll try to see if I can make some of these this week and post pictures on Pinterest! If you try out any, please post your comments on your experience here and leave any links where you posted pictures – Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, etc!!

That’s my two pence…

Arial 😉

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Halloween Cocktails & a Blog Hop

Snarkology Halloween Blog Hop 2015HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!!

Woo hoo! We’re ramping up to celebrate the spook-tacular holiday of the year – All Hallow’s Eve, Samhain or what is more commonly known as HALLOWEEN! To blast off the festivities, almost SEVENTY authors, including myself of course, are participating in the Snarkology Halloween Blog Hop – hosted by the BOO-tiful Melissa Snark!! Here are the prizes:

(1) $100 Amazon or B&N Gift Card or
(1) $50 Amazon or B&N Gift Card or
(1) $50 Amazon or B&N Gift Card or
(1) $50 Amazon or B&N Gift Card

If you click on the banner to the right OR CLICK HERE, you can follow the hop for more fun, great books, and awesome prizes! Below is also the link list to all the participants. The hop is happening OCTOBER 26-31st!!! You have all week long to participate. UPDATE: I invite you to visit AJ Nuest’s Tattered Pages blog where I’ll also be hosting MORE drinks all this week and she has some prizes as well. Yes…brave girl. She’s let me hijack her blog. Such a trusting soul. *rubs hands together* Mwuahahaha!

Each of us have our own posts and giveaways on top of the main prizes listed above, so stop by as many places as you can for more chances to win! So, let’s start with today and the drawing I’m having for this week is for TWO winners to receive Books 1 & 2 of my Bonded By Blood Vampire Chronicles in audiobook format! Scroll down to enter the drawing AND participate in the rest of the hop spots!! Good luck!!

Monday’s Halloween Drink – Liquefied Ghost Cocktail

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October – Domestic Abuse Awareness Month

This is a topic that is near and dear to my heart because of my own background. And I wanted to share this with my readers because someone out there might be in a similar situation and this article might help them break free to begin a new life OR give someone the tools to help someone they may know who is being abused. Please share this post with as many people as possible. We need to help build awareness on this issue that affects both men and women. And be sure to click on the pictures of Princess Ariel and Prince Eric to see the Battered Disney Princess and Prince campaign.

beat-up-princessMy Story

I come from a very dysfunctional and abusive childhood. For those of you who have read my books, you might now be saying, “Ah-ha! Now I understand why she had those scenes in there!” Ian Russell, one of the villains in Midnight Conquest, was my literary revenge against my father, who also beat and raped my mother. Fraser Campbell is another version of my father in Midnight Eclipse, but now the villain is through the eyes of the child instead of the wife/mother. Fraser orders the young boy Angus to stand and wait while Fraser eats a succulent meal before his hungry step-son. This scene and the beating that follows were taken from my own childhood experience and my father’s sick idea of discipline. “Write what you know,” we authors are often told. And so I have done.

My father pretty much beat every woman he had in his life – all of his wives, me and my sisters, even our babysitters! And he was more than physically abusive. He was sexually, mentally and emotionally abusive as well as neglectful. I remember afternoons when I was playing outside with my sisters at the age of seven when my father walked up to us and said, “I’m just going to run up to the liquor store and grab a pack of cigarettes. You girls stick close to the apartment and don’t go anywhere.” He left when the sun was high in the sky and didn’t return until it was dark. We eventually ended up in a foster home because of his neglect, where we were sexually and physically abused for two years there as well. Life wasn’t easy and I’m one of the lucky ones who survived.

But coming from an abusive past led me to make very poor choices in men. My first husband – God love him, he really was a sweet man and generous of heart – was a control freak. Everything had to be in agreement with him and if I didn’t agree with him, he worked on me until I finally gave up and let him have his way. My second husband was worse and I even ended up in a religious cult with him, where not only was my second husband controlling, our “minister” was, too. My second husband tried to raise a hand to me and the “minister” was encouraging him that a heavy hand was the right way to discipline his wife. I was outta there! But it was a nightmare when he tried to run me over with a car and then pressed charges against ME for battery and vandalism. I had felony charges against me, luckily reduced to a misdemenor, and all because I was trying to defend myself. This world is hardly fair when it comes to domestic violence, and that’s why we need to build awareness. The third relationship landed me with a man who ended up locking me in my apartment for three days before I got lucky enough that his mother called while he had stepped out. Thank the gods she talked him into leaving me.

Did I ask for this? Absolutely not! But I certainly got tired of the repeated pattern. I also had to finally admit that I was the common denominator here. All three men were from completely different backgrounds (Hispanic, Italian and white-bread southern boy) and even locations (Virginia, New York and Georgia). The point I’m making here is not that I asked for this, but I was unconsciously attracted to AND attracted men who were controlling. Since I came from a background of controlling men, on a subconscious level this was familiar to me. Maybe not what I wanted, but still something my subconscious gravitated toward. I learned that I needed to change my way of thinking and raise my standards. Learning to love myself was the start. Read my recent post, “Romance DOES Exist” if you’d like to know how I was able to overcome my personal issue and find true love. In the end, I finally got out of my own way and made better choices. Today, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been in my entire life, so I’m living proof you CAN break away from an abusive relationship.

Domestic Abuse - Men...don't be ashamed to ask for help!Men Can Be Abused, Too!

As I stated above, this is an issue that affects both men and women. My husband is another example. Though his wife was not physically abusive, she certainly was mentally, emotionally and verbally abusive. No one deserves to be manipulated emotionally through their children or cut down consistently due to never-ending judgment. The guilt trips were endless. Any attempts to stand up against the way she treated him were met with emotional manipulation, belittling and even using their daughter against him by calling him a bad father, etc. Because my husband is a nice guy, he frequently gave in, thinking he was the one who was wrong because he lacked confidence in himself as a person. If the role was reversed and it was a woman in his shoes, many people would be in an uproar. Most men, however, are looked at as weak for not standing up to the abuse or leaving. He stayed to for the sake of his daughter. However, the truth of the situation made him leave: staying in the relationship was hurting his daughter. He also realized how the built-up resentment was causing him to lash out verbally to his wife and behaving in a way he never wanted to. So he finally left.

There are many men out there who have to deal with the same abuse and even men who ARE being physically abused by their wives as well as the above, but like the verbally and emotionally abused man, they’re too embarrassed to admit it. Not only that, both abusive men and women often use children as pawns or threaten their spouse with custody of their children to get their way. Anything I’ve mentioned above can be applied to any relationship, be it a man abusing a woman, a woman abusing a man and gay partnerships as well! No one is immune to domestic violence and the ONLY judgment that should be made such situations is against the abuser. The victim is NOT at fault. NO ONE deserves to be treated in such a way. I think not. The goal of a bully is to get their way by being unreasonably forceful, whether it’s through manipulation, physical, emotional, verbal or mental abuse.

Domestic Abuse is Not Just Isolated to Romantic Relationships

Adult siblings can be abusive to each other. Adult children can abuse their parents. Seniors are abused. Children are abused. Domestic Abuse means violence in the home and anyone is subject to it and the cause of it. Any of this information can apply to anyone regardless of the relationship. If you’re being abused in your home, you’re a victim of domestic abuse. All of the following resources can help! And DO NOT be afraid to cut people out of your life who are abusive. Cutting off all communication with a sibling or other relative because they’re verbally abusive or constantly violating boundaries is a healthy thing to do. Don’t tolerate negative or abusive behavior. If they truly want to be in your life, then they need to change the way they treat you. My philosophy is, “If you can’t respect me as a human being, then don’t let the door hit your ass on the way out!”

domestic-violence-ribbonWhere to Find Help

I’m including a few links here that can help anyone who is being abused, but also friends of victims. Read these articles and apply them to your own life or to people you know. Look for the signs. Abuse is not just physical, as I’ve mentioned above. These resources can help you see the signs. A person like me who has been abused can spot it a mile away. Those who have not grown up in such an environment might not have the eyes to see so easily. EDUCATE YOURSELF so if you ever see the signs, you can reach out.

Take the Bully by the Horns by Sam Horn is an EXCELLENT book to help anyone learn to deal with bullies AND will help you realize how insecure bullies are. That’s why they do what they do…insecurity. (NOT an affiliate link, by the way)

For Women

Help for Abused and Battered Women
5 Stages of Leaving an Abusive Relationship
How to Get Away from an Abusive Husband

For Men

Invisible Victims: Men in Abusive Relationships
Help for Abused Men with hotline numbers for assistance
Leaving an Abusive Wife: Pre-Divorce Checklist

For Friends of Victims

How Can You Help a Friend or Family Member?
Help a Love One or Friend
FAQ Domestic Violencethis is an AMAZING PDF that can help everyone involved – victims, family and friends of domestic violence situations

DVAM_blog_graphic3How YOU Can Help!

You can help in a very simple way and it only takes a few moments of your time. Take the Hotline DVAM Challenge! The National Domestic Violence Hotline has created a challenge to show how people can get involved in building awareness. This blog post is an example of Challenge #1, which I’m reposting here:

CHALLENGE 1: Commit to our DVAM challenge. Do one of the following:

– Share a link to this blog post to someone via email or social media
– Share our challenge image (download here) and encourage your friends to join
– Declare boldy, “I am taking The Hotline DVAM Challenge!” on Facebook or Twitter Click To Tweet!

PLEASE NOTE: If you are in an abusive relationship, please do not post anything publicly that might jeopardize your safety.

Here are the links to the other Hotline DVAM Challenges:

Challenge 2: Information is Power
Challenge 3: Test Your Knowledge of Domestic Violence
Challenge 4: Information = Power – image share
Challenge 5: Know the Signs of Abuse
Challenge 6: Be Supportive
Challenge 7: Helping a Loved One
Challenge 8: For Frustrated Friends & Family
Challenge 9: Share a Message of Support
Challenge 10: Take a Stand
Challenge 11: The Journey of Hope
Challenge 12: Post this Handout
Challenge 13: Find Your Role
Challenge 14: Commit to Change
Challenge 15: Commit to Ongoing Wellness
Challenge 16: Remember a Victim
Challenge 17: Commit to Saying No More
Challenge 18: Evaluate Your Relationship
Challenge 19: Think Ahead
Challenge 20: Congrats!

Don’t feel pressured to do them all, but I would encourage you to do as many as you can. And there’s no time limit on this. Bringing awareness to domestic violence isn’t just for October. 😉

I hope this was helpful to those who need it and at least a step toward building awareness on this important topic. If you have questions, I am available and I’ll do what I can to help those who reach out.

With love and blessings to you all,

Arial 😉